The Art of Connection: Building Stronger Relationships with Young Players

Coaching isn’t just about teaching skills—it’s about building trust. When young players feel connected to their coach, they learn faster, perform better, and develop a lifelong love for the game.

So how can you strengthen your connection with the kids you coach?

1. Learn Their Names—Fast

It sounds simple, but remembering and using a child's name immediately makes them feel seen and valued. It sets the foundation for trust and makes communication easier.

2. Show Genuine Interest

Ask about their favourite footballers, their weekend plans, or how school is going. A quick conversation before or after training shows you care about them beyond just their skills on the pitch.

3. Be Their Biggest Supporter

A young player might forget a drill, but they won’t forget how you made them feel. Celebrate their small wins, encourage effort over results, and remind them they belong—no matter their skill level.

4. Match Their Energy

Kids feed off your energy. If you’re enthusiastic, they’ll be engaged. If you’re distracted or low-energy, they’ll check out. Keep your coaching style upbeat, positive, and full of encouragement.

5. Give Feedback That Lifts Them Up

Correcting mistakes is part of coaching, but how you do it matters. Instead of “That wasn’t good,” try “That was a great effort! Try adjusting your angle next time, and you’ll nail it.” Positive reinforcement builds confidence and keeps kids eager to learn.

Stronger Connections = Stronger Players

The best coaches aren’t just great teachers—they’re great mentors. When kids trust you, they’ll listen, work harder, and stick with the game for the long run.

📩 Coaches—what’s your best tip for building stronger relationships with young players? Drop it in the comments!